Casually Explained: The Friend Zone

Avaldati 30 mai 2016
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  • My best freind told me he liked me today I was like ok

  • By the words of the legendary Papa Franku. There is no friendzone, it is called being fat and gay.

  • Not a problem of me because I can’t even talk to girls in the first place

  • Have you ever considered passibility a guy putting a girl he likes in a friendzone by mistake, because he was not able to read ,,the singals?"

  • I don’t have friends.

  • Means she letting others clap her cheeks.

  • I had a friend once, that I'd been talking to for +/- 2 years. I'd met him via a group-website, so sometimes group-msn added him into the list. We very much had on and off contact on MSN, sometimes a silence for months. And always plain 'hahah, doing laundry what about you?'-conversations. At one point, I started telling him about this guy I had a crush on. He knew I was hanging out with this guy a lot. He listened to my stories and said something like; 'Ah, yes, sure I mean. Oh I have to go." I remember saying to my mom that I was so glad I had a male BFF to talk to, about these things. And that it was so great that I could have a guy-friend that respected me and didn't see me as some sortof...well..potential mating-object. It was very nice to know that not every guy had a hidden agenda and some just..youknow. Liked me as a person. For who I was, as a good friend. Either way, skip to a year later. By this time, we've joined in a group-meeting (he was very polite and offered to pay my 20 euro share, I was a lot younger and did not have a job, I was in school.) I thank him and tell him it was wonderful, like having a lot of friends. He tells me I should hang out with 2 of his friends and him, at a bar. I decline, tell him I don't have the money. He offers to pay for it. I accept payment for one dessert, but I insist on paying for my own drinks (water) and we hang out together, all 4 of us. Half a year later, things are getting serious with the other guy. I talk to my BFF on the phone, distraught, because I was 2 days late and feared I was pregnant (which couldn't even have happened, but what did I know, I was just panicking and not thinking whatsoever.) I proceeded to tell him EVERYTHING that happened the week before with this other guy and kept asking; Am I pregnant..do you think I might be pregnant?' He said; 'Gosh, I don't know, get a test.' So I said; 'Thanks, you're the best, I can trust you with anything, I think you're great bye' and got a test and dúh I wasn't pregnant. Skip to about a year later. We have started talking again, after a long silence on his side and he offers to take me back to the bar, on my birthday and that he has a birthdaygift for me. I tell him I would love that and that I will craft him a birthdaygift too, since our birthdays are so close together. I tell him how excited I am for mr-serious-now's party next week and he says; 'Uh-huh.' Skip to two months later, I have finished the birthdaygift (a hand-painted item...don't even remember, it's been 11 years..with a great card and something like a tie with decorations on it, also handmade by me.) He calls me up, but I tell him I have to hang up the phone, I'm about to visit mr-serious-now's house because he wanted to share some information with me. BFF says that's alright and we'll talk on Sunday. Mr-serious-now and I get together and I am screaming and running around in the house. I forget about the former call and instead, dance, run, cry, scream, kiss, cry, hug, run and call my mom. That end of the weekend, BFF calls back. I pick up the phone and say; 'Hello! Guess what! I have a boyfriend. I am so happy, my first boyfriend, I can't believe it, I am so happy, I thought I'd never get someone, oohh I could cry. I really want to hang out with you soon, I finished the gift for you! You will love it, it's amazing, I-' And he interrupted me, cursed loudly and hung up. I called back, he didn't answer. I stood there..flabbergasted about what happened until my at-the-time-boyfriend said; 'He was in love with you, obviously. You just broke his heart.' I said; 'Does he..does he need some time to work through this? Shall I call him next week?' My now-ex said; 'Eh..no. It was quite clear to me, honestly, didn't you know? You've made clear you're not interested in him, so that's why he's off now." I said; 'What about our friendship? We were starting to grow, I told him about my paintings, he said he liked my sketches... we hung out together, laughed so much..I was telling jokes and his friends would laugh and joke about each other. I had friends...for once. Is he going to throw that all away because the chance of getting laid is gone? Seriously? Those moments in the bar were just...meant to groom me into liking him that way?' So my ex tried to explain how the BFF probably wanted to be with me and it'd be miserable for him to watch us love each other and him being the sad..well..watcher. But at that point, I felt awful. What I wanted was a friend that acknowledged my gender and objectively would find me pretty (or not) as long as he was nice. Not someone that was ready to throw everything out of the window as soon as his chance of getting some was gone. It's been 11 years and it still bothers me. Additional shit that happened later: When I tried to clarify (a year or so ago) to someone else that I was not on the market like that, he stopped talking and was off instantly. No friendship-talk, I truly tried, no time was wasted on a friendship with me. And another guy smiled, nodded, invited me over to a meeting near his place and said; 'So, are you into women then, do you want a threesome?' After which one last guy at the bar, sat down and chased the rest away. I thanked him and we talked about how I was practicing juggling and how I loved German movies. Near the end of the evening, I looked outside and saw it was dark. "I trust you", I said. "Do you want to walk me over to that train station there? I know it's 2 minutes, but it's so dark and midnight..and I see hoodlums walking around." The guy sighed and said; 'Give me your number." I was startled and said: 'No." He said; 'Give me your number or I'll throw myself in front of a train." I looked at the barlady, but she was busy. I said; 'I'd not do that, if I were you.' He said; 'So you are not interested?" I said; 'Hadn't I clarified? I thought you respected that...you said you did." He gestured with his head to the window and said; 'You can walk on your own then." and ordered another drink. And so, I walked outside and waited between drunk twenty-somethings and some homeless, in the shivering cold with my summerdress on. The only female on the platform, not very nice.

  • You really hyped me up for a bit on how to get out of the friend zone 😅😂

  • The fifth stage is the dark side.

  • Man I wish I had friends to be friend zoned with

  • 0:57 *pain*

  • I’ve recently been rewatching your videos and apparently EEclone thinks i need help picking up women now. All i get are “how to get women to want you” adds

  • Step 2 be over 6 ft tall

  • I don't know why but I fell this strong compulsion to trust every word this man says

  • *Can't be in the friend zone if I don't have any friends.*

  • 1:05 yes. I am :(

    • She lead me on for 6 months just to tell me she’s a lesbian. Gotta be fucking shitting me

  • Bold of you to assume that I have friends.

  • Man. Watched this video and i cant keep denying anymore. It's sad to realise it happened. She gave me some sort of attetion and i went over my head. Man im tired and depressed. I dont want to do this anymore. I keep getting feelings like that and keep failing to reach out further into the relationship. I might not getting anyone, ever. I dont want to drink, to feel bad about myself any longer

  • unfortunately for you I'm actually gay

  • Everybody who thinks, talks or even uses the term "Friend zone" is probably very young and unexperienced with women *or with any creature in the world* Men: Have sex for 5 to 20 minutes. (Some say that they did it for an hour, i think it's just words) Women: Carrying a baby for 9 months, life-threatening labour, raising a child for 18 or more years... Using a term "Friend zone" is like saying "it's not fair" and talking about a Friend zone is like screaming "It's not fair".

  • I dont understand the whole thing. I cant date everyone and all my male friends are complaining that i put them into a friendzone. I am not aliud to be a friend of a male?

  • Am i a hypocrite for friendzoning girls (im a guy btw)

  • THATS WHAT THEY ALL SAY

  • Lol.. friendzone. I don't even have friends.. oh

  • I skipped 2 and 3 hahaha ha haaaaaaaaaa

  • Girls don't put dudes in the friend zone, dudes put themselves in the friend zone.

  • I love how he talked about the 5 stages of grief to explain the Friend Zone lmao *pain*

  • I have never been friendzoned because nobody wants to even be my friend This is your audience james

  • "The friend zone" ay, how do you know where I live and where I will live for the rest of my life?

  • Is it bad if I got stuck on stage 4?

  • Tell her your feelings. If she doesnt respond clear or says " I dont see you like that " - leave her. Leave her, go into no contact and start working on yourself. Try to build some muscle or try to learn new things - get a hobby or something what makes you happy and post it e.g on social media. The best thing would be when you are in a group with a lot of people. It shows her, that you are socially active and will start asking herself question like for example: "who are they?" "is one of them interested in him?" etc. Most of the time she will contact you after a few weeks/months and try to get in contact with you. Show her, that you dont "need" her in your life and that you are strong. Show her, that you have a strong personality and get things done. You shouldnt act like a douchebag or like an asshole - be friendly and maybe flirt with her a little bit :) But just dont rush it. Let her move to you and stay cool! I actually did and tried this with my girlfriend a few years ago... God i was such insecure back then but things started to work out and now we both are happy :)

  • Why was this recomended to me? Is youtube trying to help me out or making fun of me?

  • Idc every human that can be a friend is my friend gender fk gender

  • He finally filled that hole in his hair

  • Can a hetro guy and girl be friends? I don't wanne hang out with girls if I can't t get sex or an real emotional relationship out of it. Curious what others think.

  • Whats the worst she could say: Whatt...who are you ...how do you...how know where i live ....what do you mean you used ro stalk me....hello 911

  • I’m trying to friendzone everyone who randomly asks me out online :/

  • "all black and white, so they are probably dead now"

  • One time I started hanging out with a pretty girl from school (this was in 9th grade). After a while, I asked her if she wanted to go to a movie. she said no and that she already had a boyfriend and that I was only her friend. But lucky for me, I had already put her in the friendzone. I told her that I only considered her to be a friend and that I asked her out as a joke. Then we just started laughing really hard about how dumb the situation was. Good times.

  • "Be more attractive." I will need to elucidate further.

  • She said she rather have me as a friend...

  • I think I can be considered one of the few lucky men who have friendzoned a girl

  • eeclone.info/glo/kKyzoKSNqYxm0I4/video

  • I told a girl I had a crush on her she told me she wasn't into me 2 months later we start dating 1 week later she is with my literal best friend( this was my first gf and it lasted 1 week )

  • So moral of this video? 1. Be more attractive ... Yeah.

  • Somehow my father got out of the friendzone at stage 3, he was a dumbass (and a bit of a stalker) back then, but since my mother was bored as hell, she went on a date with him. And to this day I still cannot get over the fact that he looked like one of those high school boys 14yr old girls like.

  • If you need a straight man to understand how vital the friendzone is, get him done up real spiffy and stick him in a gay club on leather night. Suddenly friendzoning is good XD

  • 1:00 xD

  • Step 1. Be more attractive *Mission failed, we'll get em' next time.*

  • 0:05 I belong to every women's Ozone

  • I friendzoned my bestfriend for half a year and I actually don't know how, but he escaped the friendzone and now we have been in a relationship for two years :)

  • Friendzone- W I T H B E N E F I T S

  • 1:00 same thing happened to me lol

  • It should be noted that a not showing any interest, and not reacting to her signals unless they are 100% clear(sexual), will make you more attractive or at least preserve your dignity.

  • 1, be more attractive. 2, have more money

  • Winking both times at the same time Me: Wait isnt that just a blin--- *BONK* Me: Where am I? ???: The friend zone pal

  • I luv how he photoshopped steve cook's arms to be bigger lmao

  • How have I not found you until now, I am just dead from laughing at your videos my abs literally hurt, good stuff my man

  • The thing is: 'be more attractive' is something than men CAN achieve easily. They just choose not to ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ Like, do you think most women are attractive? Nope, we're average. We just try actively to improve our appearance.

    • Its hard to improve on permanent facial features, (Big foreheads, big noses, big mouths.. etc). You can improve upon those things with makeup but not for men. Im sure a lot of men try to keep hygienic and wear decent clothing, but sometimes that just isnt enough.

  • (*:

  • *_b o n e z o n e_*

  • Ugh the whole concept of friendzone is sooo toxic Like, you like someone and they don't like you back - sad, i feel you, but you're not in a position to change their mind. They are free to decide if they like you, and trying to "change their mind" is just too intrusive. Best thing to do here is just be sad for a while and move on.

  • Step number 4 had me 🤣

  • Yo, my crush asked me out!

  • I hope, I'm not the only one who saw something different in thumbnail

  • I had a crush on a girl from my class but got friendzoned and we stopped being friends for a while until she admitted she had a crush on me, and so... we both friendzoned each other.

  • I’m never in the friend zone because I don’t have friends 😎

  • I clicked on this for entertainment. Trust me I know all about the friendzone

  • I normally respond with, "I'm about to get racist."

  • Thanks for the advice

  • Funny thing is that if ladies would actually clearly say their affections guys would not question every single fucking wink whether the girl has a random stroke or it means something more.

  • How to get out of the friend zone , Stop being a simp thats all there is to it either she will like you or don't

  • T A K E. N O T E G I R L S! don't talk to mens, they might think you like them Don't look at men, they might think you like them Just don't to anything with mens, they might think you like them

  • I have this guy in my class that I want to be friend with, so I chat him and ask if we could play a game and he's like "do you like me?" Like...do you really except someone to like you just because they wanna hangout to you if they are your opposite sex?

  • But why would you expect someone to like you just because they are kind?.

  • What's the worse she can say, no? Girl: ew. F

  • Okkk but who actually is that guy from the green text???? For research...

  • Cool pictures

  • I've never gotten that far

  • If you're a girl, try to avoid: -Being seen -Being heard -Knowing another human

    • @Vatsla. welcome to the loser zone

    • @Voided Sun yes your so true. Let me share you my story.. I'm a girl and had a crush on a boy we would talk for hours on whatsapp, insta and sometimes on discord 😉, I was so into him but never confessed my feelings. i'd enjoy his company and felt as if he's interested. Yeah ik 4months aren't sufficient but 🅻🅾🅻 i believe in sooner or later thingz. I gave him some hints but he wouldn't know or maybe he was pretending to be immature , so furiously I asked him to talk to another girl and gave a reference of my best friend (she's beautiful✋❣). He then asked me for her number. Lol it's my direct roast. 😄😄😄😄 🅳🆄🅼🅳🆄🅼🅳🆄🅼🅳🆄🅼 🆈🅴🅰🅷 🆃🅷🅰🆃'🆂 🆁🅸🅶🅷🆃 🅸🅼 🅳🆄🅼🅱 😂😂😂😭

    • I went out to eat three times with a girl, we shared secrets, talked for hours, often commuted together, and she looks all lovey dovey at me when we talk, I ask her out for valentine's, and she says she is not interested like that. Some men want to bone, some women are manipulative. Both are culpable sometimes. Don't pretend honesty isn't an option and don't victimshame the men like its 100% their fault.

    • Noted sir/ma'am, Boys might think I'm into them.

  • the amount of gay jokes this dude makes, im starting to think he might be bi hey not judging me too bro 😳

  • Bruh this girl say I got no friends, but when I told her I liked her she said i would just like to be friends.

  • I don’t date people right now, as of now I’m asexual so I put myself in the friendzone.

  • I'll wink at every man from now on .._..

  • man here i am at 1 am looking at this video and have never even talked to a girl once

  • According to Filthy Frank the friend zone doesn't exist.

  • those are the 5 stages of anger, but it really is the same

  • If you never flirt you never get the frend zone

  • LOL that unexpected acceptance joke - accepting not the friendzone itself but her idea that you might actually be gay and prove her point with the dudes pictures...

  • How The Fuck Does This Guy Say All This Stuff With A Straight Face/Tone 😂😂

  • 0:21 reddit moment

  • How can you be in the friend zone if you never had a crush.

  • Now how can I as a girl make it clear to a guy that he's in the friend zone? Repeatedly shoving his arm around my hips away during a movie night didn't seem to do the trick....

    • Send him this video

    • Best just tell him you're not interested, get it out of the way.

  • What to do if you're in the friend zone. Remove any thoughts of a potential romantic relationship and just be a friend. OR cut all ties and never speak to them again, forget they exist. The latter is highly highly more recommended than the former.

  • If I had 1 pound for every girl who found me unattractive, eventually, they’d find me attractive

  • Pro tip for women : don't live in the same plane of existence as guys

  • This be like the steps of grief

  • Being polite and nice doesn’t really mean we are friends. I didn’t care to begin with lol

  • LMAO when I first watched this video around a year ago I just thought 0:21 was a random text but now after a year of finding out old Reddit culture while browsing I just burst out laughing when rewatching that bit

  • A moment of silence for people to whom this video was sent.